The first step to defragment is to figure out why I feel fragmented by writing everything down.
All the big thoughts, to-dos, appointments, RSVPs I need to send, people who deserve thanks and praise, books I want to read, shows I want to watch. Art projects that I want to finish. The things I’m grateful for at that very moment. Anything that is happening and in my brain for the next 30-90 days. I write down everything that feels like it SHOULD be bringing joy to my life. I don’t hold back. I make sure I write down the people I spent time with, one of my goals is 1:1 time with each family member for at least 10 minutes a day.
This actually takes me multiple days. I think about things in the shower, when I run, right before I hit the pillow and sleep. When I feel mentally released, I move on to the second step.
The next part is to pretend I’m an alien. I need to be objective.
Are the things on my list my most important things? Is my time being used on the things I really want to be remembered for, the things that matter most? Or am I filling the day with beautiful fluff or nourishing activities?
I take out my highlighters and highlight the things I can do in 5 minutes and in another color the things I should get rid off. The things on my brain dump that I shouldn’t actually spend time thinking about. It’s okay to know that right these good things don’t fit into my life right now, even if they once did. That’s wisdom.
Only you can know your core most values, and there are tons of blog posts by other people who can help you find them. (here, here, and here ) I find that having three words helps me align myself quickly:
Now the things on your list that aren’t highlighted or crossed out are the things you get to fit back in.
You’ve filtered your life for joy; the joy that was in hard to see in the periphery before.
Let me know in the comments below if you join in brain dumping and filtering for joy. I love getting feedback from my readers here on Instagram.