There is no point in having a defragmented life if it isn’t going to have your important people.
But, where are your important people?
My husband and kids live with me, our parents and siblings live at least eight hours by car away.
I have local friendships, I’m trying to tend. I also have friends online.
This post is about those friends that aren’t local, or even “in real life”. I love these online friends, I have cultivated a truly meaningful tribe. They challenge me to be the very best human I can be. They share the most interesting articles and links and funniest videos. I’ve met up with people we’ve moved away because they were traveling near us. I’ve even met people in real life that I only knew previously online. I’m thankful that my need for introverted friendship can be met this way, and that I can easily find the people I jive with most online when I move every two years cross country.
An optimized life means I’m using my time the best possible way. And that means I need to savor my kids. I have only 8 years left with my oldest being a kid at home which is terrifying and amazing to me.
How do you decide where to use your time with people? In the last post with the brain dump, the objective alien exercise helps us be aware of how we’re spending our time. It’s a hard answer, and it won’t be the same for everyone. I know I’ve been in seasons when my husband is deployed where I hit refresh so many times on my email, that I thought it would lock me out. So, if that’s your season. I’ve got your back. I’ll defend your use of the phone at the playground like no other. I’ll also make diligent efforts to stay your friend if you close down your facebook account, stop having data on your phone, and only use Instagram at home.
Right now, in this season that means I’m going to check Facebook before 8 am or not at all. I’ll use Instagram to post photos and interact in my free time. It’s my favorite platform so that’s where I’ll be. I can’t do everything, so I’m going to be where I find joy.